You are most likely here for one of two reasons.
You are seeking immediate counsel for a pressing issue,
or you would like to find on-going support for life's longer term complex issues.
We are here to offer expert help and direction with both.
We specialize in helping individuals and couples learn how to deal and overcome issues with:
Anxiety - Depression - Intimacy - Relationships - Self Worth - Direction - Grief - Trauma - Stress Management
What We Do
We help individuals and couples transform their lives for the better. We understand how trying everyday life can be when things are out of balance. You are not alone in your challenges. Together we will cultivate greater confidence and develop more fulfilling relationships all while improving your feelings and behaviors.
How We Do It
For 50 minutes, once or twice per week, for a number of weeks, months, or years, you talk with a skillful professional and form a relationship. Together you develop an understanding of what is keeping you from contentment. Then, you and your personal therapist work on creating your best life possible.
At The Help Couch we care deeply about our work and the people we see. Our practice is based on honesty, integrity and empathy. Our style is warm, non-judgmental, and tailored to meet your needs.
Call us at (248) 509-4575
or Email us today.
We look forward to joining you on your path to well-being.
Andrea Anderson, PhD
"Dr. Andrea changed my life. Her insightful and educated approach helped me identify and work through multiple issues. I am so thankful I found her."
"My husband and I started seeing Dr. Andrea when we experienced some bumps in our relationship. Dr. Andrea helped us not only see but appreciate each others experience. We are closer now than we have ever been. Her understanding of couples dynamics is amazing."
"I struggled to find a therapist I was comfortable with. Dr. Andrea put my anxieties at ease in just the first visit. Our weekly sessions have had a profound impact on my daily life."
28555 Orchard Lake Rd, Suite 230 Farmington Hills, MI 48334
Get In Touch
Tips for Clients
Therapists have a big advantage in the therapy office. We've read a stack of books and spent thousands of hours learning what to do in session. Clients have to learn as they go, costing them valuable time and money. Here are a few pointers to help clients level the playing field.
Take the Whole Hour: We call it a therapy hour but it's only 50 minutes. Get your money's worth by arriving 10 minutes early to catch your breath, collect your thoughts and prepare for your session.
Forget the Clock: Show up early, but let the therapist be in charge of ending the session on time. You've got enough to think about during the session, the therapist can be responsible for wrapping up.
Make it Part of Your Life: Therapy works best when you take what you've learned and apply it to the rest of your week. Between sessions, notice areas in your life you'd like to explore.
Business First: Take care of payment, scheduling and insurance questions at the start of the session. Nothing's more awkward than ending a session with a big revelation or emotional breakthrough followed by three minutes of check writing and calendar navigation. Get all those logistical issues out of the way at the beginning.
Relationship Next: Following those business items, issues regarding the relationship with your therapist (if there are any) come next. This could be anything - you're thinking about termination, you felt angry after the last session, you're worried what she thinks of you, you had a dream about him, etc. These relationship issues take top priority because they will impact all other areas of your therapy.
What do I Want? How do I Feel?: These two questions are home base for clients who feel stuck. If you find yourself lost and don't know what to talk about, revisit these questions and you're bound to find material to discuss.
Ask Anything: Clients sometimes censor their questions because they believe asking is against the rules. You're allowed to ask whatever you want, let the therapist explain their boundaries. Want to know a personal detail, professional opinion or an explanation for something she said or did? Go ahead and ask. You might not get a straight answer, but you should get a reason why not, and you might learn something about yourself in the process.
State of the Union: Check on your status any time during your therapy. How are the two of you working together? How well do you understand each other? Is therapy helping or hurting at this point? This is ideally a two-way discussion, with both of you sharing your thoughts.
Try New Things: Therapy is a great place for thinkers to try feeling, listeners to practice talking, passive people to be assertive, etc. Want to rehearse confrontation? Practice asking someone out? Let yourself cry in front of someone? Therapy is a great place for this.
Learn to Fish: A lot of people want advice from their therapist. Therapy is more about helping you come to your own conclusions than having the therapist make decisions for you. This benefits you in the long run but may seem disappointing at the time.
Ask Why: Let your inner 3-year old out and ask why you behave/think/feel as you do. Why do I hate my boss so much? Why am I so anxious before sessions? Why does the therapist's shirt bother me?
Challenge Jargon: Some therapists have been doing this work so long they assume everyone knows what they're talking about. If the therapist says some gibberish you don't understand ("this boundary violation exacerbates your abandonment issues and fixated Oedipal complex"), ask him what he means.
Say the Odd Thought: Therapy is one place where strange thoughts are acceptable. In fact, the odder the better. Have a sudden impulse? Say it. Flash to a certain memory? Talk about it. The phrase some things are better left unsaid doesn't apply here so speak freely and you might learn something interesting.
Be Aware of Your Therapist: Not just who she is, but who you imagine her to be. And how you imagine she feels about you. Talk about your relationship in detail to see how your projections influence this and other relationships.
Go Deeper: If you find yourself running through mundane details of your week or hitting awkward silences, maybe there's a deeper issue you're avoiding. Ask what it is you're not talking about and talk about it. Discuss what you're discovering about yourself. Take the time to explore who you are, what you feel and why you do what you do. Push beyond it is what it is or whatever and tackle some deeper questions. Try: "I wonder why I ___" or: "Deep down, I really feel ___".
Don't Fear the End: From the beginning, talk about when you'll know you're ready to leave therapy. Rather than cut and run, let therapy be one experience of a truly good ending.
Dream On: Bring in dreams, daydreams and fantasies, especially those about therapy. People often have more of this material when they're in therapy. This can be incredibly rich to explore.
Keep the Energy in the Room: Thoughts, feelings and questions about the therapy are best discussed first with the therapist. When you run everything by your friends first, it diffuses the energy of the encounter and sidesteps an opportunity for the therapist to understand you better.
Allow Change: Some people ask for change but feel uncomfortable when it actually happens. Accept that if you're seeking change, things will probably change, and it might require more change than you thought. An eating disorder, a sexual problem, interpersonal conflicts, an addiction - these may require a major life rehaul, not just a little tweak.
Engage and Enjoy: Therapy is like enrolling in a course where you are the subject matter. If you're curious, teachable and motivated to do some work, it can be one of the most challenging and rewarding courses you ever take.
These excellent tips were created by Ryan Howes, Ph.D.